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W.H.A.C.K.
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You must know How
how to Change
You may have heard people say, "I
know how to lose weight, I just don't know
how to keep it off." I'm here to teach
you how to keep it off.
Personal Motivation Strategy
We start with discovering your Personal
Motivation Strategy which gives us key information
in learning why you do what you do. Unless
someone else has full control over you,
you're responsible for the choices you make,
and you use a specific strategy to make
those decisions. Once we know the strategy
you use, we can effectively use your own
strategy to make new and better choices.
Things you'll learn about yourself include:
- How to gain results while avoiding problems.
- Whether you prefer relying more on yourself
or others
- Your preference for procedures such
as specific plans to follow, or variations
which allow more variety and flexibility
- Whether you want things to stay the
same, want some things to change while
some stay the same, or whether you prefer
everything to be different every time
- Whether you are firmly rooted in the
present, remembering the past or looking
forward to the future and which you prefer
While everyone would agree that it is good
to gain results while avoiding problems,
which is the more critical aspect for you?
For some it would be gaining the result,
keeping focused on the goal is what keeps
them interested, such as the mountain climber
who works so hard to reach the summit. Others
are motivated by eliminating or avoiding
problems. This type may build a bridge between
two cities, to avoid having to drive all
the way around the island. You'll notice
both get things done, they just are motivated
in a different manner. Neither is better
than the other, they are just different
ways to achieve a result.
Belief Systems
Changing limiting beliefs is an area that
I devote a large part of my practice to,
although it can sometimes be the easiest
change people make. Once you realize your
beliefs are of your own choosing, you can
learn to change them. We do this with various
EFT and NLP exercises, depending on how
long standing your beliefs may be, and whether
other people were involved in creating them.
It is absolutely not necessary to dig up
your past, or discover where a misguided
belief originated. People spend hundreds
of hours in therapy getting stuck on the
why, and I want to go on record as saying
it is not necessary to know why. If you
are intensely curious, that is fine, but
to move forward, you need to realize you
are now an adult (assuming you are), and
your beliefs at this point are up to you.
Your parents and caregivers heavily influenced
you while you were growing up, but as soon
as you become an adult, and started living
your own life, you became in charge of your
own destiny.
Old unhappy things, memories we're stuck
on, movies that play over and over in our
heads, can be removed until they're no longer
a problem. Emotional issues that you rely
on for staying stuck, can be changed. Then
the most important issue becomes back to
the W. You must want
to change. That's a decision you make
over and over, as change happens, you must
reaffirm that is what you still want to
be able to stay the path.
Letting Go
Being afraid to let go of who you used
to be can be a huge obstacle. Just because
you decide to get healthier doesn't change
who you are. Consider if you woke up tomorrow
and had already lost all the weight you
wanted to, would people relate to you any
differently? Nope, probably not. As soon
as they got used to the "new you"
everything would go right back to the same
old routine. Your body may have changed
but who you are inside is still the same.
Now that you've decided that you definitely
want to change, next you must know how to
change. You need a plan. This is where most
people turn to diets since that provides
an instant plan to follow. I can provide
a diet, if that is what you want for starters.
My plan allows 1200 - 1500 calories (depending
on your starting weight, maybe even more).
It is a sensible plan, with no restrictions
on food groups, allowing generous amounts
of healthful foods. It is easy to follow,
doesn't require buying any special foods
or powders. You don't even have to count
calories, or fat grams, but some people
like to do so.
You can also bring your own food plan,
or follow any diet you choose. In the beginning,
it is most important to work on the emotional
aspects and your belief structures. As time
goes by, you'll learn to adjust your food
choices to support the size you've decided
you want. Next, you must Take
Action...
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