to use EFT to Help Kids with Tourettes
What if met your child and told
him or her that, "I teach
kids how to calm down quickly
when they don't want to be upset."
Might they be interested to know
how I do it? Probably.
Our problems are like the pieces
of a puzzle. At first you have
a big pile of pieces and it looks
like it'll take forever to finish
the puzzle. Then you just start
by trying to find those that fit
together. As you find matching
pieces you keep working and the
puzzle starts to take shape. It
starts getting easier too, as
the colors make themselves more
apparent. After awhile your pile
of loose pieces is very small
and the picture is almost complete.
Those last few pieces seem to
fly into place. It's the same
thing when figuring out what bothers
us and what to do about it. At
first it seems like there is too
much, and that we'll never solve
the problem, but then you just
get started fitting those pieces
together one after another. That's
what I do. I teach something called
EFT that helps you put the pieces
of Washington has some wonderful
web pages on Tourette Syndrome
(TS) and describe it as "a
neurological movement disorder
that is inherited. It affects
between 100,000 to 200,000 people
in the United States. About 1
million Americans may have very
mild symptoms of TS. A person
with TS makes involuntary and
repeated body movements, called
'tics.' The tics are not always
present, but may worsen with fatigue
Generally Tourette syndrome (TS)
is considered to be “genetic”
condition, but recent research
confirms that TS can be a genetic-and
If TS affects anyone in your family
you may have already noticed certain
times or events that can trigger
an attack. It's also possible
that certain chemical additives
in food or drinks could be a trigger,
or certain smells, chemicals,
and solvents. Many migraine sufferers
experience the same thing - certain
smells can trigger a headache,
while not bothering anyone else.
by noticing what you eat or drink
regularly and see whether there
are any questionable additives.
A quick and easy way to eliminate
any food/drink triggers is to
practice an elimination diet,
whereby you simply do not eat
or drink the particular substance
for a couple of weeks then reintroduce
the food/drink and see what, if
anything, occurs. Allow a couple
of weeks after reintroduction
to be sure there is no reaction
because for some people it takes
a week or two of repeated exposure
before symptoms appear.
If your child suffers with Tourettes
or similar neurological disorders,
there are two things needing to
be addressed: The child's affliction
itself, and your response to that
affliction. In other words there
may be more stress based on the
fact that the affliction exists
than the affliction itself.
I would suggest a two-pronged
approach. I'd ask the child if
they'd like a way to "not
feel angry," or "stop
worrying about the tics,"
or whatever is their primary issue.
Some children have symptoms much
worse than others, so depending
on the severity their main problem
could be teasing and being hassled
by other kids about "being
different" or it could be
the exasperation they see on their
parent's faces, or it could be
just a general uneasiness with
not feeling in control of themselves.
Tourettes and other neurological
symptoms are generally thought
to be aggravated by stress, excitement
and fatigue. EFT is an excellent
way to address and calm many of
those issues whether in the moment
as they are occurring, or in advance
such as when some stressful event
is coming up. For instance a child
being asked to stand and read
aloud in class is a very stressful
event and something most kids
dread, but a child with an underlying
fear of being able to control
his actions is under an enormous
additional strain. No small wonder
some kids have a rough time.
EFT is helpful for kids to learn
to relieve their fears such as
"monsters under my bed,"
traumas such as bullies at school
and everyday frustrations and
insecurities; "No one likes
me," "My teacher hates
me," and "I can't read,"
which are all beliefs that can
be inadvertently encouraged by
overworked teachers and busy parents.
It's not easy raising a child
today and it's certainly not made
easier by having to deal with
an ailment or physical manifestation
such as with Tourettes, stuttering
or any other physical symptoms.
How to Approach
Kids with Learning EFT
Your kids will love EFT once
they learn it. Sometimes while
teaching EFT to the parents, the
child will ask, "Can I learn
too?" If you want to help
your child, but are not sure how
to approach them about learning,
here are some ideas that may help
you find the right words in your
"How would you like it if
you had a way to stop being mad
when you don't want to be?"
"Would you like to be able
to stop being afraid at nighttime?"
(This question usually gets a,
"Yes, but," which means
they also believe there are monsters
and if you take away the fear,
will they still be eaten? Monsters
are quite real to a small child).
"Would you like to be able
to stop feeling bad, whenever
Once they agree, you can get
started. Remember to use "Kid
Approved" phrases including
their own words as often as possible.
"Even though I'm scared
of spiders, I think I'm really
"Even though everyone laughed
when I wet my pants by accident,
I'm a great kid."
"Even though I can't say
the right words sometimes, I'm
the coolest cat, anyway."
EFT is sort of like having a
magic wand. Once kids learn they
can control themselves, they learn
they can control their destiny.
It's amazingly empowering for
a child to feel a sense of mastery
over their own environment.
Use EFT with your kids and they'll
start asking for it. "Mom,
can you do that tapping thing
with me?" "I have a
big test, can we do tapping to
make it easier?"
EFT is so simple, even a 3-year
old can do it. Parents can use
EFT on pre-verbal children as
well, and watch as it calms them
from the most serious screaming
and crying episodes. It will help
them, and it will help you help
Contact me if you have any questions
or want to schedule a private
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